Drink Water and Mind Your Business: A Black Woman's Guide to Unlearning the BS and Healing Your Self-Esteem

"Practical, funny, empathetic, shame-free, and joyful." ―Emily Nagoski, PhD, New York Times Bestselling Author of Come Together, Come As You Are, and BurnoutSelf-esteem ain't self-taught―and it does see color.Let's be real: society was not built with the needs of Black women in mind. And as a result, we learn that the only way to feel good about ourselves is to prioritize everyone else's needs over our own. We find our value in being the perfect partner, mother, daughter, employee, and friend. But that is exhausting. Instead of feeling good about how dope we are―regardless of our service, bank account, or looks―we only feel good about what we do for others. Supremacy culture teaches us to hate Black people, to hate women, and to especially hate Black women… except when they need us to either save them or serve them. So in a world where our service is required for acceptance, how could we ever feel good about ourselves while also giving the middle finger to systems of power? How can we